It is not just a different version of you that exists in the minds of others It is a different, transient and constantly changing version of everything that exists in every mind.
What this demonstrates is that our creation of reality occurs not in a cause and effect way from the outside in but rather from the inside out. We are not at the mercy of our environment we create it, moment by moment via our thinking in the moment.
What is so special about really knowing this is that you will begin to see what others have forgotten. That nothing is broken and nothing needs fixing and with that, your life will transform. Guaranteed!
You will suddenly know that people, places and things do not (ever) determine your happiness, stress, well being or anxiety despite how much it might look that way to you.
Wives can’t disappoint you, husbands can’t piss you off, your kids can’t let you down, work/school and stress are no longer synonymous and the friend who did not respond fast enough to your social media posts cannot make you feel a certain way.
Nobody can MAKE you feel anything, EVER! It simply does not work the way we think it does.
Love does not come from your partner, security does not come from a bank account, your insecurity does not come from whatever it was that person said to you 10 years ago. Your view of the world, at any given moment, comes from you and you alone. Your feelings come from your thinking. Where that comes from is a different conversation.
This does not mean you do not feel, have emotions or that life is bland. Quite the contrary. In fact knowing your feelings are independent creations of your thinking frees you to explore depth of feeling to a profound and some would say spiritual level.
Knowing how it really works, not how it looks or more accurately how you have been innocently and habitually taught to think it works, well that my friends, is worth your weight in gold.
With this knowing comes a freedom that is beyond anything you will have felt before. It is gentle, kind and loving of its own accord. There is no work to do. It is a simple and profound truth wherein nothing is broken and nothing needs to be fixed!