Stop trying to feel better, and start feeling better.
February 1, 2020
I was one of those people that tried unsuccessfully for 35 years to do things to promote my mental health. Despite the fact that I fear my approach does not resonate with many, until we sit across from one another and talk, I’ll share my two cents.
I submit that the problem of mental health is our belief that it is a problem that requires diagnostics. It is through diagnostics and the need to reduce to understand, that we mire ourselves in mental un wellness.
There is nothing to be done to promote mental health there is only the ability to detract from it. You can’t make yourself feel better that just happens, but you can damn sure make yourself feel worse, although that just happens as well. The difference is that we dwell on one and not the other. If we allow ourselves to see the inescapable wisdom in this we are back to mental health. We are back to what we were born with, mental wellness/health.
Can you think of any other life form that suffers as part of its existence? Are humans meant to suffer or are we innocent victims of an innocent misunderstanding?
Namely, that our feeling states are imposed on us by circumstance. As long as we believe we are subject to that which is around us we give up our agency and are reduced to victims of life rather than players in this miraculous game of life.
A metaphor that I like is of holding a beach ball under water. When you release the beachball/thought, what happens? It rises. This occurs in the absence of work and effort. It takes no effort to return to mental health as it is our default setting.