Minding the “Gap” when our thinking gets the best of us.

Minding the “Gap” when our thinking gets the best of us.

Life is awesome, family is wonderful, I love my work, and I feel great. I have absolutely nothing to complain about. Life is just sailing along.

Little did I know that was about to change. From one second to the next it was different. There was no gradual decline into uneasiness this was a full bore gut heave that knocked me from my previously enjoyable vantage point. Life does not look so good from here. I don’t like this. I want to get back to where I was, where it was easy, where it was good. With those thoughts, it all went to shit and stayed that way for weeks.

In my desire to get back to somewhere, back to where I had been, I created a “Gap.” This Gap was away from where I was, distinct from me, and a place to get away from as quickly as possible. This Gap is deep and this Gap is real!

Whether by letting go of my thinking, jumping really high, meditating or maybe with a ladder, all I know is that I have to escape. My Gap is a place to get away from not a space to grow into. It took me away from my desire rather than towards it. Hilariously, it was this innocent misunderstanding that kept me in distress.

What I see now is that the “Gap” is what I experience when I am unsure of my focus. It is what I experience when I am deciding what to give my attention to next. That uncertainty is just me feeling out my next desire.

The problem is not the Gaps, life is full of them. The problem is how we perceive our Gaps and the meaning we give them.

When we see that Gaps are the moments between where you are and “what’s next” they lose their power and bring your own into focus.

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