We get more of whatever we put our attention on. My guess is that based on our own experience we would all agree with this. And, so what? So, we get to decide where we hold our attention. This can be a powerful insight. I put my attention over here, ahhhh, that feels good. More of that, please. How about I put my attention over there, yuck! That feels bad. I will do less of that. How simple can it get? That simple.
So how do we hold our attention on what feels good? By appreciating when it does. As we become more appreciative of the “good”, the more sensitive we become to the “bad.” The more sensitive we become to the “bad”, the less likely we are to focus our attention on it. When our attention is not focused on what is bad, all is good.
Appreciating the good may take some time. That’s ok. Be gentle with yourself. You may be creating a new habit. But be warned, appreciation is addictive and may lead to an awesome life experience.
Try this at home.
Set an intention to Appreciate. For the next week/month really commit yourself to noticing and caring about appreciating. Immerse yourself in it. Actively look for things to appreciate. Notice them, they will be all around you. Heck, if you feel so inclined, write them down. See how many pages you fill.